1 hour. 2 000 steps.
I never realized how much hustle happens in my home between 7:00 – 8:00 a.m. According to my Fitbit, I take an average of 2 000 steps in that one hour. It’s absolutely astounding. That’s 20% of my daily steps in 60 minutes.
This hour is when my kids wake up, eat breakfast and get dressed. That’s it! Somehow the steps add up though, don’t they?
My daughter Aneleigh wakes up, and I go get her. We head downstairs to make breakfast. I help her make some important breakfast decisions (Would you like the red spoon today? No? How about purple? Blue? Okay, I give up, you just sit here until you find a colour you feel at peace about.)
My son Rhodes wakes up, and I go get him. I bring him downstairs only to realize he’s sopping wet and needs to get cleaned up before breakfast. I take off his pyjamas and diaper. Lo and behold, there are no fresh diapers downstairs, so I head back up to grab some.
As I’m upstairs, I hear the screams. “Rhodes! No buddy!” Slightly rolling my eyes, I head downstairs. My son is naked, sitting in the drawer that once held all the kids’ cutlery and dishes. He’s whipping plastic cups around the kitchen like it’s his day job. No buddy, indeed.
My husband and I tag team through the rest of the hour, finishing breakfast, getting dressed and heading out the door. By 8:00 a.m. my kids are dropped off at their daycare.
Boom! 2 000 steps.
Whether or not you’re a working mom trying to get out the door, I think most of you will understand the all too familiar scenario above.
Moms, we are BUSY! Sure, sometimes there are stretches where things feel steady, when your plate isn’t too full. Rest assured though, you will soon be jumping back into the tornado that is your life.
I want you to write an imaginary list with me. On it are all the roles you play, all the tasks you do, all the things you want to do, all the things you want to teach your kids, friendships you need to maintain, volunteering commitments, your date night ideas and other ways you want to grow your marriage, and the myriad of other things that popped in your head.
I suspect that list may be pretty long. This young family season is one of the busiest in our lives. But, guess what? You can walk through this chaotic season confidently, and with joy.
How? First, just admit you’re living in a tornado. You have a lot of things on your plate. The good news is that at Selah, you are surrounded by moms also juggling many hats. Here are 3 steps that I used a lot this year in figuring out what should be on my plate.
Step 1 – It’s a big one. You need to intentionally step outside your tornado and ask God, “What does this season look like for me?”. What this looks like will vary for each mom. Maybe you’ll work through this question with God over a few devotions. Maybe you can head out to your favourite cozy coffee shop and have a few hours alone to mull this over.
I cannot stress the importance of this enough. We need to ask God what should and should not be on our plates. It is useless to be running around busy with something that God has not asked us to be busy with.
Zig Ziglar, a motivational speaker, put it this way, “If you don’t plan your time, someone else will help you waste it.”
PS – This step should happen a couple times each year.
Step 2 – Once you’ve asked God for direction, you can move forward confidently, knowing that your chaos has a purpose. You know that your time and energy is going towards the things He is calling you to.
Finally, Step 3 – Count it all joy. Once God answers and you’re walking confidently, you can joyfully jump back into the tornado. You now know that every hard day, every struggle, every difficult relationship has a purpose. You also know that every special moment with your kids, every parenting victory, every day that ends with a smile on your face is truly sweet because it is the fruit of living with a God-aligned vision.
Like it says in James 1:2-3, “ Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.”
For me, since going back to work, I feel that quality time has increased in my family because I know how precious time is – I don’t have days, I have hours to invest in my children. Knowing that time is short, knowing God called our family to this season, makes our family time incredibly focused and intentional. This is a gift God gave us in the tornado.
My prayer for each of you reading this is that you can take this 3 step approach to heart as you meet with God about what He is calling you and your family to.
Ask God for Direction, Move Forward Confidently, Count it All Joy.
Selah Working Moms Group